Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Tony's parents will employ a walk-away tactic to deal with the boy when he is reluctant to leave a place. Sometimes, picking up Tony doesn't work because he will kick and flail away at his parents. The parents then will say "good bye!" to him and walk away. The tactic is effective if the parent doesn't look back. Tony will scream and not move at first, but at a point, the prospect of separation forces him to reluctantly run and catch up with his parents. This tactic is usually employed in shopping centers and playgrounds.
Tony has learned to use this tactic on his father.
One day, Dad wanted to take Tony into a small shop to buy a cold drink. Tony, contrary to his normal desires, didn't want to go in. For whatever reason, he was dead set on he and his father making their way quickly to a bus stop so they could both go to his favorite playground. Dad was carrying Tony on his shoulders. He tried to get his son on the ground, but Tony resisted by clasping his knees to his father's neck. Dad eventually pried Tony off and put him on the ground. As he was put down, Tony put his head and legs back, but eventually settled so that he was standing on the ground. He said "no!" to his father, and walked away in the direction of the bus stop. Ten meters from his father, who stood aghast in front of the shop entrance, Tony turned around to see if his father was following him.
Tony, like his father, couldn't resist the urge to turn around to see if the tactic was working. Unlike Tony when his father turned around to see if Tony was coming, his father ran to catch up to Tony. Turn about was fair play.
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Sunday, June 26, 2011
Saturday, June 25, 2011
Friday, June 24, 2011
Sitting on the bus, Tony looked up at his father and asked "Daddy! Are you okay?"
Daddy was pleased to hear Tony say such a thing. However, Dad wondered if Tony was really being sincere when posing the question, or was imitating something or someone.
Monday, June 20, 2011
Tony and his mother have spent the past two weeks in Beixin. They will return to Wuxi at 320, Tuesday Afternoon where they will be meet by Andis, who is husband and father to them.
Tony made history during his time in Beixin. He learned how to use bike pedals, and sit on the toilet to take a poo. Only thing left for him to do is learn to wipe himself and learn to play the guitar.
Thursday, June 16, 2011
Jenny informs me that Tony was a naughty boy Thursday. Tony pushed some boy, same age but smaller than Tony, to the ground causing the boy to bleed. The boy, apparently, earned Tony's wrath because he tried to touch Tony's bike.
Did Tony feel remorse? No.
Jenny said that Tony felt funny after it happened. After questioning, I learned that Jenny meant that Tony thought it was funny and was laughing.
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Tony didn't bring his toy guitar to Beixin. He had been holding the guitar while dancing and singing along with songs by the Jam.
Last night, Tony's father Andis sang some Jam songs to Tony while making his daily phone call to Beixin. Jenny told Andis that this singing caused Tony to jump and dance and sing.
Tony used his favorite toy doll as a guitar.
Saturday, June 11, 2011
Tony got a new bike. Jenny tells me he can ride it quite well. He has figured out how to use the pedals.
When Tony gets a new toy, he likes to take it to bed with him. Now, with a bike, that can't be done, but this hasn't stopped him from trying. Jenny tells me he had the bike beside his bed last night.
Friday, June 10, 2011
- Tony wasn't feeling so well yesterday. His mother said he had a slight fever.
- Tony wouldn't talk to his father over the phone. In fact, when his mother asked him to talk to Dad, he turned his back away. Now, why was this? Is it because Tony didn't understand why Dad had to stay in Wuxi and work, and so was mad at Dad? Or was he just tired when the request was made to him to talk to Dad?
Thursday, June 9, 2011
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
Water gun that is.
Jenny bought Tony a water gun. Funny, said Jenny, how Tony was a whiny boy all the day, but as soon as he was presented with a water gun, he became instantly happy.
Tony has used the water gun to bother the dog and the chickens in the compound of his grandparents' home.
Tuesday, Tony and his grandfather went to a supermarket in Beixin.
Tony saw some toys that he wanted his grandfather to buy. His grandfather said he had no money.
So, they went home. Tony expected his grandfather to get some money and return to the supermarket to buy the toys. But his grandfather had no intention of returning to the supermarket -- the saying he had no money was a merely a ruse. Tony became very upset at his grandfather, and threw things at him.
So, Tony got his way, and they returned to the store to buy the toys.
Monday, June 6, 2011
Talking to his mother Jenny, this is what I have learned about what my son Tony has been up to in Beixing, a village in Taixing, Jiangsu province:
- There are chickens, in his grandparents compound, which he loves to scare.
- He has a female cousin to play with. And at times, he has been looking for her.
- There was a cache of new toys awaiting him in Beixin.
- He very much wanted to go to Beixin. He apparently patiently sat at a chair, beside the front door entrance to Casa Kaulins, waiting for his mother to finish cleaning the apartment.
- There is also a dog, a bastard of a dog that has to be tied up, that he loves to tease.
- He is walking about in his bare feet.
- There are some local kids he has been hanging about with. They don't understand what he is saying.